Thanksgiving 2010

This was probably the nicest Thanksgiving I've had in a while. Dustin came early, James was here and Bonnie was off from work too. A small group, but just enough for calm, pleasant company and conversation. Talking face to face with Dustin is always a treat for me. He either actually enjoys talking with me or he "fakes" it really well. He is the empitome of a wonderful son. He shows his love and respect and bears my flaws and idiosyncrasies. Terrence on the other hand has always hated me, says it and shows it. He has never had respect for me even as a child and still is very hateful to me. He just recently told me that if he wanted to get together with me he would put forth the effort but that it isn't and never has been worth it. I am so worn out and hardened by this from him for 30 years that I just responded that he was absolutely right. It isn't worth what it does to me when we do talk or get together. He stays in touch with Jayson, says he likes Judy and visits them or has them over every holiday. So I figure they can all have each other. I know that I have done a lot of the damage in our family, I know that I have wasted a lot of my life. But there is no going back and very little future left. I am at least in a peaceful place with James. He is very repectful and kind to me. Being with him is secure and happy place to be. I love him and he loves me. What else can I ask for? I will never have the life others have with a husband of many many years, devoted children and lots of happy grandkids. It just wasn't meant to me for me. I have to believe that God just knew I wouldn't be good at it. But it still hurts to see everyone else with this kind of life and it makes me feel like a kid looking through the window and watching all the happy families but I'm outside the circle, the joy, the way I always dreamed my life would be.